What I’ve Been Reading

It’s been a while since I posted about what I’ve been reading so here we go…

 

Its-Just-a-PhaseI’m in the middle of this right now and love it!  If you are a parent, student or children’s worker or volunteer, or a teacher this book is perfect.  It provides a framework and a language for the stages that kids progress through as they develop and grow.  Best of all, it provides a strategy for kids and children’s ministry leaders as well as great ideas for parents.  I highly recommend this book!

 

513F52vnKLL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_Confession:  I am a history nerd.  Because of this, I really enjoyed this book.  It’s entertaining and I learned a ton.  A general rule of thumb is that if you like history, you’ll like every one of David McCullough’s books.

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A co-worker recommended this book to me and somehow, even though I read a ton of classic literature, I hadn’t yet read it.  It is very compelling and a little dark–which in my opinion, often makes for a good book.

9780804140416_p0_v5_s260x420As we were closing out our ministry season in May, life was busy and stressful.  I needed something light and this book came through.  It is hilarious!  I also recommend Gaffigan’s other book, Dad is Fat.

51nUjnGZGoL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_I thought this book was great, especially in relation to the question of how followers of Jesus should share the Gospel in our culture.

5191tfUj2VL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_Ugh…I miss Dallas Willard.  I mean, I didn’t know him or anything, but his voice will be deeply missed.  This book was finished and published by his daughter, based on sermons, manuscripts and previous drafts.  It’s a great read.

 

What I’ve Been Reading

I read some great books in November and December.  Here’s a list with a few thoughts.  I’d love to know of any good reads you could recommend.

 

PattonI’m a huge WWII nerd so this book was a must.  George Patton was such a controversial and passionate person that reading about his life surely isn’t boring!  In terms of the writing, I really enjoy O’Reilly’s narrative style.  It is very fast paced and exciting.  If you’re into history or WWII history in particular, I definitely recommend this one.

 

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This book made me rethink how I oversee projects.  For our student ministry team, projects are a big part of what we do.  We approach our camps, retreats, trips and the entire summer like many organizations approach projects or new products.  I think I have a lot to learn from principles that guide the technology industry or lean manufacturing.  I’m very interested in adopting the Scrum approach for project management.

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My wife and I read this book with a couple we are mentoring.  This is a great book, particularly if you grew up in a strongly passive aggressive family, like I did.  This book teaches a method for talking about difficult issues.  I found it to be very helpful.  I’ve used principles from this book to discuss difficult issues with volunteers, staff and my family.

The_7_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_PeopleThis book is old school but so good!  It’s one of those books that you should re-read every few years, particularly if you are in leadership.  If you’ve never read it, you should pick it up.  It will help you define and organize your life around what you truly care about.

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I met this author at the Hutchmoot conference in Nashville this fall.  He is part of the Rabbit Room.    I liked this book because it is historical fiction, which I enjoy and because the author is a follower of Jesus but the narrative doesn’t follow the prescribed Christian novel script.  I’ll just say it, I like a story with a little darkness because it feels more authentic.  Sometimes the typical Christian novel feels a little too plastic.  Also, there are pirates in this story, so it’s hard to go wrong.

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Jennifer Trafton was also at Hutchmoot this fall and unless I am completely out of my mind, I believe she is married to Pete Peterson (the author of the previous book).  I read this book to my kids at bedtime and it was perfect!  They loved it.  It stimulated their imaginations like crazy.  In fact, as we read, my son built Lego scenes and characters to match the story.  It was really fun.  If you have early elementary aged kids, this book is great.

Will Our Kids Succeed?

Recently, I read “How Children Succeed” by Paul Tough. It’s a fascinating book about the psychology and sociology behind success.  The ideas presented in the book have helped me rethink what is most important in parenting.

As a parent, I’m constantly focused on two things:  excellence in the classroom and moral character.  If I’m honest, I want “A”s and good, moral behavior.   I’m particularly vigilant about honesty. I deeply desire for my kids to grow into adults who speak the truth and easily gain trust with others. What I’m realizing, though, is that moral character is only part of the equation for successful kids.

I grew up in one of those families that is dominated by the family business. We’re a water well drilling family and have been for years. I am a 5th generation water well driller, or at least I was, until I became a student pastor.

Growing up, my father developed in me a strong work ethic. From an early age, I was expected to chip in, work hard and problem solve. I want to see these traits in my kids as well, but I’ve never been able to describe what I want with any sort of clarity until I read “How Children Succeed.” Paul Tough breaks performance character into 7 qualities.

1. Optimism

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Kids who grow into successful adults tend to look on the bright side. They believe in their future and they are able to set goals and run after them. Put simply, kids who succeed believe they will succeed.

2. Zest

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Life is an adventure. Kids who succeed, do so, because they bring energy and zest to the challenges and opportunities before them. Rather than becoming paralyzed with fear of the future, challenges energize successful kids and activate their inner drive.

3. Self-Control

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Success often involves delayed gratification. For example, good grades usually require doing your homework before plopping down in front of the TV. For kids who grow into successful adults, learning self-control is a key ingredient.

4. Grit

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I love this word. Grit is that quality that enables a person to push through. It’s when a child initially fails, but picks himself off the ground and powers through to the finish line. People with grit never give up and never quit.

5. Social Intelligence

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Kids who grow into successful adults learn how to navigate society. They learn acceptable social behaviors, how to influence others, how to listen and how to engage in teams.

6. Gratitude

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Gratitude is simply thankfulness for the blessings of life. Kids who learn gratitude become adults who are satisfied with what they have been given. They don’t need the next shiny thing and they are capable of staying committed to important relationships.

7. Curiosity

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Curiosity has unleashed every major techological breakthrough in human history. Every significant advancement in human society has been born out of, “What if?” Children who grow into successful adults–adults who change the world for the better, are driven by curiosity. They just have to know, understand, and see what happens.

 

Obviously, I believe that education is important, but if the basic premise of this book is true, the character we develop in our kids is far more important than what they learn in the classroom.  How they go about education and what they do with education, as filtered by their character is what will determine success.  I’d almost go as far to say that how we play with our kids is more important than what we formally teach them and surely how we model is definitely more important that what we speak.  What are your thoughts?

 

Grit photo credited to filin ilia – aliyo.hu via Flickr

Self-control photo credited to Robert Plaskota via Flickr

Zest photo credited to Tambako the Jaguar via Flickr

Optimism photo credited to Quinn Dombrowski via Flickr

Curiosity photo credited to Broterham via Flickr

Thankful photo credited to MTSOfan via Flickr

Social Intelligence photo credited to Philippe Put via Flickr

What I’ve Been Reading

It’s getting colder, which means it’s a good season for reading!  Here’s what I’ve been up to…

100Cupboards-coverSigh…I didn’t love book.  I feel terrible saying this because I met the author at the Hutchmoot Conference and he’s really cool!  He was very engaging, the kind of guy I’d want to meet for coffee and talk life.

I picked this book up because I’ve been looking for great stories to read to my kids.  And, maybe it would have been different if I had actually read the book, but my friend Kirk and I listened to it on the way back from Nashville and we both felt confused by the storyline and under-impressed with the characters.  The story is built around an incredibly creative idea but it just didn’t work for me.  But, who knows, maybe you’d like the book.  It receives great reviews on other sites.

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Novelty captures the human imagination and these guys have mastered the art of presenting ideas in a novel way.  They understand how to package an idea in such a way that it becomes utterly unforgettable.  They are wizards of story, which is probably why they’ve sold so many books.  Like their previous two titles, I couldn’t put this book down.  Honestly, I’m not sure that the book “retrained my brain” as the subtitle suggests, but I was fully engaged and learned a great deal.  I loved this book.

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Recently, I asked my boss to recommend a few books on leadership and management and this is one of the books he recommended.  Peter Drucker was a legend in the realm of management and this is one of his most popular books.  It was originally written in 1967 and some of the stories and a bit of a language are outdated  but I didn’t mind because I love history.  If you lead people, this is a great book.  And, don’t be afraid of the title.  The book isn’t just for “executives.”  It’s for anyone who isn’t a manual laborer and especially for those who lead other people.

Falling Leaves and Lots of Books

Leadership and ministry require knowledge and wisdom.  Every morning I pray for wisdom because I constantly feel inadequate to lead my amazing team.  With that said, I don’t think wisdom is a passive exchange.  I don’t believe that God honors the request for wisdom without the pursuit of wisdom.  And, that’s why I read voraciously.  Wisdom is something that is developed over years.  I think it is more like the 10,000 Hours Rule that Malcolm Gladwell made famous in his book Outliers, than it is momentary infusion of insight. So, if you are in leadership or ministry…or life, I implore you to read voraciously!  Here’s what I read in September:

519GwSuqxcLOne of the best times to read is while traveling.  I read this book while flying to and from Costa Rica on a scouting trip for a summer missions location.  Osborne has a ridiculous amount of ministry experience.  One thing I appreciate is that over the years, his church has grown from small to ginormous.  Because of this, he has a good understanding of leadership and church culture in a variety of settings.

13435889I really enjoyed this book.  I was fascinated by his research into character.  Tough’s thoughts on the importance of performance character as a predictor of success has influenced my thinking a great deal.  If you have kids, this is a great book to help you think differently about training your children for success in life.

talk-like-ted-400x400-imadte4ymfsyqpymRecently, I attended an artist conference in Nashville, called Hutchmoot.  During one of the sessions, Andrew Peterson asked the audience to share with the person next to them the last book they had read for fun.  My answer was this book.  The person next to me answered, “Isn’t that a book for work or something?”  And, I said, “Yes, but I love my job and I love speaking.”  In my head I thought, “Speaking is an art too dang it!”  But, I didn’t say that because I have a measure of social awareness.

Anyway, this is a great book for those of us who speak or teach on a regular basis–in any format.  I believe there are a million reasons to think of a student ministry teaching like a TED talk.  We have much to learn from the best communicators in the world and this book is an insider’s look into the presenting philosophy of TED speakers.  Check it out.

JunkyardPlanet_Na_Cvr1Sigh…yes, I read a book about trash.  This book was amazing!  The author grew up in the US scrap industry and then spent the better part of a decade in China exploring where American trash and scrap goes.  If you’ve ever wondered where your car goes when it dies or whether that bottle of Tide you just emptied goes to heaven, this is your book.  In my opinion, this book finds a nice balance between hardcore environmentalists and heartless big business.  The truth is often in the middle.  Idealism doesn’t often work in the real world.

As Americans who often think that separating our recyclables into the correctly colored containers is an act of heroism, we need to hear the story of how these items are actually recycled.  We need to learn about these Chinese recycling centers, places so polluted that even the Chinese government, hardly a stalwart of environmentalism, has shut them down.  We owe it to the impoverished rural Chinese who are poisoned by the thousands to transform our throw away metals, electronics and plastics into new goods that we can recycle all over again.

 

My End of Summer Reading List

I read a couple of great books last month.  Check them out…

Son-of-HamasIt was really hard to put this book down!  If you’re unfamiliar, this is the autobiography of the son of a Hamas founder.  He shares about his upbringing, conversion to Christianity and defection to the West.  The insider perspective on Palestine and Hamas in particular was fascinating, particularly in light of what is going on in Israel and Palestine right now.  It’s definitely worth the read.

bookpicI found Freakonomics to be entertaining and insightful.  This, the authors’ second book follows in the same vein.  They spent a lot of time applying economic principles to the phenomenon of prostitution which was enlightening but also probably not for everyone.  My favorite section of the book was on global warming and how to reduce the power of hurricanes.  Genius.

c8807460d81413a43d81144acafc6735_largeI loved this book and the entire series.  Peterson is incredibly creative with his creatures, settings and characters.  I was also impressed with how he wove in biblical themes without sounding cheesy or like a Jesus-juke.  Like always, I got completely wrapped up in the narrative and didn’t see the ending coming.  It hit me like a freight train.  It happens every time.

I thought the book was excellent.  You should probably get the entire series right now.

 

Orange Books!

My friends at reThink have launched Orange Books!  I’m super pumped about this.  Many of the books by reThink authors like Reggie Joiner have deeply influenced the way I think about student ministry and family ministry as a whole.  I’m a huge fan of the Orange philosophy of ministry–it’s all about churches and families partnering together to promote and elevate spiritual growth in our kids.  I love it and we’ve done our best to implement these ideas in our church and family ministries.

You can check out their latest books at orangebooks.com.  Also, they are running a promo that runs through tomorrow in which you can score sweet prizes for buying one of their books.  You can check out the promo page here.  All the books at the site are great but If you’re looking for a recommendation for student ministry, I would tell you to read Creating a Lead Small Culture.  Here’s a little blurb about it.

 

Creating a Lead Small Culture from Orange on Vimeo.

What I Read in July

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This is the best book I’ve read in a long time. I could go on and on about it’s sheer awesomeness. I’ve been annoying my friends for weeks with stories about Pixar’s organizational culture. As a creative thinker who leads a team of creatives this book was right up my alley.

Because I’m a big fan of Pixar’s movies, I thoroughly enjoyed the back story on Pixar’s origins, where the ideas for their movies come from and also a different perspective on Steve Jobs. I can’t recommend this book enough for leaders and creatives.

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My friend Matt is a big fan of Scot McKnight–his books and theological approach, and that’s how this book found it’s way to my reading list. To be fair, Matt told me I chose the wrong McKnight book but oh well, I enjoyed the book. For one thing, it helped me survive a 15 hour flight to South Africa.

I appreciated McKnight’s argument about how we are to interpret the Bible today.  The story of God doesn’t end with the pages of the New Testament.  We, as followers of a Jesus have been granted the privilege and responsibility on carrying the story forward.  This is a vision that draws out my most passionate and driven self.

On a side note, to my discredit, I have continuously ignored the “women in ministry” debate because, well, it’s difficult–not a very compelling reason, I know.  You see, I hail from very theologically conservative roots.  I was raised in a group of churches called the IFCA, Independent Fundamental Churches of America–the name sort of speaks for itself.  Anyway, the good news is that I’m finally beginning to think deeply about the subject and engage in the debate.  As I think things through, I found McKnight’s arguments to be very helpful.

 

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If you read my blog regularly, you know I’m a huge fan of reThink. I love the Orange philosophy of ministry. This book is a fantastic blueprint for how to build a lead small culture–that is, a culture in which small groups are the primary mode of discipleship and small group leaders are empowered to be the spiritual mentors of students. I deeply believe in this philosophy.

As always, reThink books are fantastic–elegant, strategic and artistic. If you’re involved in children’s or student ministry, this book is simply a must read.

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This book wrecked me. I read it while living in a creepy hospital room in Malawi, Africa, perhaps that had something to do with the level of emotion in which I engaged the story.  I was terrified!

The story is deeply moving. I hesitate to inform you that I cried like a sissy. It’s the kind of story that motivates you to live a more meaningful ife.  You should probably just read the book.

 

What I Read in May

Here’s what I read in May…

 

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This book was incredibly fascinating.  It will blow your mind in so many ways.  The main premise of the book is that all of us are driven by habits.  Understanding how we form habits can be incredibly useful for individuals and organizations.  The simple formula is:   cue, routine and reward.  There is something here for spiritual development as well.  I wonder how this plays into the formation of spiritual disciplines.  This book is definitely worth reading but be warned that you will be scared of Target by the end of it.

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Wow…did I love this book!  The theme of the book is this:  Why do evangelicals talk like they are horrible and that the Christian faith is dying when, for the most part, evangelicalism in America is thriving–in fact, growing?  The author, who is a sociologist,  presents what he feels is much more sound research than, for example, Barna’s and shows how evangelicals aren’t walking away from the faith in droves, don’t have the same divorce rate as the rest of the population, and tend to be more generous than most people.  And, he delivers his data in a wickedly funny style.

Overall, the author seemed to be saying, “Don’t listen to Barna and other Christians research organizations who continually deliver doomsday statistics.  They have an agenda and their research is faulty.”  Specifically, he repeatedly went after Barna.  I haven’t exactly sorted out where I land with all of this but it was refreshing to hear a counter argument to the bleak data I’ve been reading for the past few years.  To be honest, his data fits my student ministry experience far better than Barna’s.  Most of our students do very well with their faith beyond high school and I’ve always been baffled by the numbers Barna and others give concerning the number of college students walking away from faith.

simply-christian-cover1I know that my more conservative friends may not appreciate this author but when he talks of kingdom or “life after life after death,” my heart sings.  I still remember when I finally understood that following Jesus means more than saving people for heaven and that heaven is actually a restored earth and God among us.  Sadly, I didn’t see the light on this until after Bible college…let that one sink.  It was this book that opened my eyes:

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Back to N.T. Wright, regardless of where you fall in the justification debate (nerdy theology alarm!), N.T. Wright has helped to bring balance to our understanding of what it means to follow Jesus here and now.  This book is heady but I appreciated it, especially the latter half.

What I Read in April

I hit the books hard this month.  I guess my mind needed a break because I did a lot of light reading.

51-hBT05g3L._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_Yes. I got sucked into the series.  I admit, I’m no better than your 7th grade daughter.  STOP JUDGING ME!

allegiant-book-cover-high-resOK, but for real, I could not put down the first two books, but this last one was a snoozer for me.  I totally hit the wall on the steamy romance too.  I get it.  You like to snuggle.  Do I have to read about it…over and over?  And, aren’t you only 16?  Stop!

As much as I was bored in third book, the ending was fantastic.  I suppose it was worth the 50 shades of Tris and Four to get to the ending.

 

I’ll read anything by Bryson.  I wanted to learn a little more about Bill Shakespeare because I feel terribly uncultured and slightly barbaric.  I still don’t know anything about his plays but I did learn a thing or two about the man.  In the end, this was not my favorite Bryson book but you might enjoy it if you’re a Shakespeare fan.

 

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Overall this was a great book.  My student ministry team and I read it together.  It only took us about 4 months.  Hey, we were busy.  Anyway, I didn’t always love the author’s tone but the content was great for leaders and organizations aspiring toward greatness.  I highly recommend it as a leadership book for a team.

 

9780310329305_p0_v3_s260x420816QopNLW0LI will review both of these books together because they are by the same author and also because they evoked the same reaction in me.  I’ll be honest, I felt a little like a creeper with his ear pressed to the door of some women’s club.  These books were written for women and I’m not a woman.  The truth is that I read these books because everyone kept telling me how good of a storyteller Shauna is.  I want to become a great writer and storyteller so I went ahead and pressed my ear up to the women’s club and listened in.  She does tell good stories.  Bittersweet, in particular was great because it is raw and emotional.  In my opinion, this is what makes for great books.  Sadly, Shauna and her husband have been through a few difficult years.  I deeply appreciated her willingness to delve into the darkness and tell much needed stories.

On a side note, I loved that many of the stories took place in Grand Rapids, even if she sort of hates the place.  I can’t say I blame her for all she went through in our town.  I’ll admit, I did get a bit defensive about my beloved city, but I’m over it.

 

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This book is extremely short but it still counts because I want to reach my reading goal for this year and because it propelled me forward.  This book is powerfully motivating.  The central message is this:  “Get up early and do stuff you care about.”  It’s an incredibly simple concept, almost like, “duh.”  Mornings are when you can focus.  Mornings are when you won’t be interrupted.  Mornings are when your willpower is the strongest.  So basically, get up and start working on your dreams!  For me, it’s writing.  I wake up early, grab a cup of coffee and write.  Unless I’m tired, then I grab a cup of coffee and play Clash of Clans.  Maybe I should reread the book.